rant.

recently there’s been a sort of influx of ‘real women’ photos, quotes, whatever, i’m sure you’ve all seen the “how did this become hotter than this..” photo. many a time have i decided against ranting about the subject but they’re really fucking pissing me off and i don’t care if it changes some imbecile’s mind on the matter or not here is my two cents. 

let’s start with one i just saw, it stated “a woman without curves is like jeans without pockets; you don’t know where to put your hands”.
okay. right, just to clear this up:

1) you put your hands on her fucking body (with her permission of course)

and

2) there is a difference between personal preference and being a fucking ass.  

i don’t know if you fuckwits realize but women come in more shapes and sizes than you could ever imagine, as do men. a ‘real woman’ is not a woman with a large bust, small waist and round hips. a ‘real woman’ is also not one ‘straight’ down, a real woman is a fucking woman regardless of her figure. 
i find it utterly baffling how this sexist stemmed ‘opinion’ can still exist but of course we live in an ignorant society that isn’t logical and good at all and yet it still grinds me to dust when i see people who i thought were decent post something like this, i immediately lose all respect for them.

it’s people like them who are the reason why self esteem/confidence/etc are fucking bollocks, and coming from someone who is so very painfully insecure, things like this can hit home (though quickly shrugged off because of how ignorant it all is). 

what one may consider beautiful another may consider ugly, it’s subjective and personal preference but when you start throwing in “oh she looks like a boy” it becomes a different matter. i’ve seen a photo that said something like “if i wanted a flat chested 10 year old boy’s figure i’d go for a boy” and i literally wanted to be sick not only because it was a shitbag thing to say but because my chest is one of the things i am most insecure about and i cannot do a thing about it-without surgery- but that doesn’t mean large breasts are criteria for being considered a woman. it’s like when people say to me something along the lines of “blah blah you’re so skinny blah blah” in a negative or jealous manner-and i cannot stress how non arrogant this is-, i’ve no idea how to react to something like that. you see i am forever stuck between deciding if it is good or bad that i’m small and petite but that’s the fucking thing i am small boned (everything is proportionate to my size) and an ectomorph body type which means it’s almost impossible for me to gain [noticeable] weight which means i am naturally this way which oh fuck in case you didn’t realize means i can’t change that but i’m still a fucking woman. 

another major thing on the subject is when people bring becoming a mother into it, ‘child bearing hips’ and such. oh i’m so very sorry i didn’t realize my entire purpose on this planet was to give birth to and rear kids, which’ll make me a woman alongside my child bearing hips and large breasts that are clearly needing to be huge because how else will i feed a child even though breasts of any size’s purpose are still for and able to nurse ? 

it’s all just fucking ridiculous and makes me so fucking angry. yes one is allowed opinions and preferences but the key part in that is knowing that women are women regardless of size and all that bullshit. there is no ‘real woman’ list of checkboxes, and if you think otherwise then you’re a shitty human being and you should go fuck yourself.